“We all know that our own marriages are largely influenced
by those with which we grew up, but what we tend to forget is how our own children
are being influenced by the marriage they are witnessing.”

~ Judith Siegel, Ph.D., LCSW

Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling

Friction and frustration are part of any couple’s relationship. Unexpected life circumstances can strain the relationship. What was once free-and-easy communicating can become laden with stress and resentment; small disagreements may turn into heated fights or silent withdrawals; and feelings of not being appreciated or rejected can escalate into reactive behaviors. Once these cycles develop, they become difficult to ignore. Instead of plodding along, it takes courage to attend to what is not working well in your relationship so that you and your partner can have what you both deserve.

In your relationship, are you and your partner:

  • Feeling alone, anxious and distant, sharing less and disagreeing more?
  • Living like roommates or coping with a betrayal or an affair?
  • Arguing about kids, money, sex, in-laws and responsibilities?
  • Blaming and shaming each other?
  • Being ruled by legacies of the past?
  • Feeling hurt, resentful, angry, confused, resigned or guilty?
  • Wondering if you can live this way for the rest of your life?

When our significant relationship is hurting, we can make the Necessary Choice to regain its sanctity, sensuality, stability and safety!

Working together, you and your partner can:

  • Learn how to accept differences just for what they are
  • Communicate your feelings and needs caringly, respectfully and openly
  • Recover from betrayals and wounds
  • Support each other through life’s lows and difficult times
  • Bring out the best in each other and re-create trust and safety in your relationship
  • Bring laughter, playfulness and joy into your relationship

In our work together, we can unpack the cycle of arguments, feelings and protective behaviors that have guarded/alienated you from each other.

Then we will attend to the underlying hurts, misunderstandings, and misattunements that developed over time making it then possible to have safe and reparative conversations. In this way old wounds can heal and marital good will and resilience are restored. This opens the door to true intimacy.

The Love Kit

The Love Kit Internal Family Systems (IFS) Deep Learning is an online series of three 75 minute classes. It offers informative skills to improve your significant relationships. The three videos are based on the IFS and Intimacy from the Inside Out (IFIO) models of therapy.

Developed and presented live during the Covid-19, 2020 pandemic, these recordings are beneficial at any time to:

  • Help you meet your inner world of sub-personalities and how that impacts your relationship through the lens of Internal Family Systems.
  • Re-establish a deeper connection with yourself so you can speak for your needs in your relationship.
  • Speak with your partner in ways so that you are heard.

Watch the first five minutes here: www.ifsdeeplearning.com/the-first-5

To find out more, please visit www.ifsdeeplearning.com